Yep, what NoahL said. Windows Mail (comes with Vista and up as a replacement for OE) has the junk folder.
Now that you aren't depending on dial up, please make sure all your XP updates are current. Run Windows update, install whatever it wants, reboot, do it again and again until you bleed it dry. You probably have OE6 and there are security issues with that, and I'd bet you don't have SP2 or SP3 either.
Did you know that you can have any email address you want at either of your two domain names, have a choice between like 4 different FREE spam solutions, receive it through OE, save it on the server and be able to log in and view it on the web (while out of town, for example) and never worry about being tied to any one ISP just for the sake of an email address? You could have Denise@domainname and Rod@domainname and inquiries@domainname and so on, unlimited, secure and no cost?
We need to talk on the phone about how to handle the other stuff you mentioned in your earlier message. Trouble may be brewing, and I don't want you in the storm. I want to go over the pros and cons of your decisions about all that. I'm tired of playing phone tag, too, but I'm gonna keep trying. The stars have to allign sooner or later.
Johanna