Thank you both for your insight.  I do have a few extra questions.  I have looked around for the answers but  
1. Stitching before dying/antique doesn't discolor the thread?  I have no idea, I haven't stitched anything like that yet. 
2. To oil the belt, cover it in gum tragacanth/atom wax/ or neatsfoot doesn't effect the antiquing?  Which is best for this without making the leather darker? Should I wait a few hours until the oil is dry before antiquing or is it safe to do it immediately after. 
3. Is there a website or book I could find that details the steps?  I have Belts Galore by Al Stohlman, but he doesn't cover that.   
Thank you again, for your help - this is frustrating!