I Need Some Help Please

[DoubleC]

25 or 30 years ago i worked for two different contractors. They were in business togeather at one time and they both told me the same thing we got out of the partnership while we were still friends. It's hard to be in business with another person most of the time. Best of luck for both of ya.

I am so realizing that. I think I'd be better doing the business on my own a little at a time, and us remaining friends. Thanks for taking the time to write. Cheryl

[rickybobby]

I am so realizing that. I think I'd be better doing the business on my own a little at a time, and us remaining friends. Thanks for taking the time to write. Cheryl

Cheryl,

I just left a business that I started with a friend 4 years ago. It just became to much DRAMA. He has a large family that he allows to dominate his day (work days) and his mind is not on business. I thought it would get better after each drama session but started to realize this is how it will always be, one drama after another, it is how some people function (or don't function). I could not make business decisions without him, I would propose something and he would not make a decision, so the opportunity would pass us by. He held up everything by not moving forward. I needed to leave. It is some peoples way of taking control of a situation but never calling themselves the "leader" they are just and anchor to the rest of us when we are tied to a business with them.

Anyways, I gave a 6 week notice, made sure the bills were all paid, cleaned up all of "special" jobs I took in for customers and made sure all the work was caught up. I moved my sewing machines, benches, and tools into my garage and started a new business. We remain friends and my stress level is zero. You don't have to worry about stepping on someone else s emotional toes. You can deal with customers without having wait to talk to a partner about money, you make all the decisions!!

I am working less and making more money, and are doing the projects I want to do, turning away to lower profit jobs if I want.

It sounds like you need to change the name of the business to "Single C" and do this your self. Most of your posts have had a boat anchor attached (your partner) and you cannot move forward because of it. Get out now before you get in to deep financially or you are no longer friends.

Something for you to think about, I have not looked back!

Rick

[DoubleC]

Cheryl,

I just left a business that I started with a friend 4 years ago. It just became to much DRAMA. He has a large family that he allows to dominate his day (work days) and his mind is not on business. I thought it would get better after each drama session but started to realize this is how it will always be, one drama after another, it is how some people function (or don't function). I could not make business decisions without him, I would propose something and he would not make a decision, so the opportunity would pass us by. He held up everything by not moving forward. I needed to leave. It is some peoples way of taking control of a situation but never calling themselves the "leader" they are just and anchor to the rest of us when we are tied to a business with them.

Anyways, I gave a 6 week notice, made sure the bills were all paid, cleaned up all of "special" jobs I took in for customers and made sure all the work was caught up. I moved my sewing machines, benches, and tools into my garage and started a new business. We remain friends and my stress level is zero. You don't have to worry about stepping on someone else s emotional toes. You can deal with customers without having wait to talk to a partner about money, you make all the decisions!!

I am working less and making more money, and are doing the projects I want to do, turning away to lower profit jobs if I want.

It sounds like you need to change the name of the business to "Single C" and do this your self. Most of your posts have had a boat anchor attached (your partner) and you cannot move forward because of it. Get out now before you get in to deep financially or you are no longer friends.

Something for you to think about, I have not looked back!

Rick

You know, it's strange Rick, she thinks she's the one coming up with solutions and I'm being stubborn. The truth is probably somewhere in the middle. I offered to give the tack away decorated for testimonials, she didn't want that. I offered to finish it and her sell it on eBay under her ID because I don't want anything to do with the business Paypal (which we don't have set up yet) because I'll be honest, I'm NOT good with money. I sold on eBay for quite a while and bought more than I sold and barely got out alive with a 100% reputation. I was doing vintage things at the time, jewelry and smalls and I always found something too good to pass up knowing I could make money on it. I guess auctions are my personal form of gambling. she didn't want to do that. Then after she told me to send it all back and I went off about my time, the business and my paying shipping, plus it being up to me to find some working capitol, she wrote the next day a long ugly email and said all she wanted to hear from me right then was did I want her to send me the money to ship them. Thant she had every intention of selling the tack and putting it back into the business. The day before she said she was just going to throw it in the barn with their old saddles they use for training. I gave up reading minds a long time ago unfortunately.

Yesterday I worked on the website changing it back the way she wanted, after I sent an apologetic email in return saying i didn't want her money. I have sent her posts from here and she's mad I'm discussing all this. I told her I didn't post about this issue, but rather what to coat the paint with so it didn't fall off after the tack was used a week. And that these were the posts I was getting. She threatened yesterday to just walk away and I told her I'd rather be friends with her than partners. I wouldn't even have to change the name, mine is Cheryl Crossan :-) I have someone here helping me learn excel, I've downloaded everything and read every tutorial I could find that was relevant, found a leather supplier and signed up for a wholesale account, down the website twice, researched everything from hardware to what seems to be selling at eBay, plus been working on this tack. She found a wholesale rhinestone business and ordered some to put on a pair of jeans. I ordered USMC and Resolene and some glass scarabs because on the black set I bought I'm putting my own conchos on the set and didn't have an extra scarab for the breast collar. Picture from photobucket attached along with the drawing online I took it from. She says I'm flitting and need to concentrate on finishing the tack. I think I'm trying to survive and get this business off the ground. And like I said Rick the truth is probably some where in the middle, I don't know. I just know I can't fight about it anymore and I'm almost out of apologies. I want her to walk away though I don't want to just leave her behind. I don't know, I just know you all have some really good advice. Thanks for writing Rick. Cheryl