Single Man, Wanted

[Aika]

Moderator can delete this post if they want, it seems men here are too shy or already deeply married. I am off. thanks everyone who participated.

[fredk]

bye-bye

[Martyn]

I guess some fun is FUN. Isn't this getting a little out of hand?

Cute? I am not so sure. Doesn't this belong on a Dating Site?

ferg

Well said. It was making me cringe on page 1.

[Ferg]

Old and smart. Anyone taking you serious has more of a problem than just looking for a "Tart". LOl

ferg

[Aika]

Old and smart. Anyone taking you serious has more of a problem than just looking for a "Tart". LOl

ferg

What a man... and you also my friend on FB... I will go to delete you.

[Aika]

Let me explain myself, so I hope it would eliminate some funny comments.

I am 37 y.o., I was married, widowed, I have two big children, and I am good looking, in fact I am very good looking even in my workshop scruffy cloth and apron. I have university degree, speak several languages, worked 15 years in oil and gas, have no immigration problems, and pay my bills myself, my leatherwork craft is highly sell-able. I have no problem with finding men in real life at all... in other words I am not desperate for a man who is the leather-worker. But Mr "the only one" is only one and I would love him to be "think alike" or at least have same interests, just like my parents who are both engineers and designers, when I look at them I understand they don't need friends or a company, because they are perfect company for work, for life and fun,they are like strings of guitar who are tuned into same melody, I admire them.

For old men - nova days people do meet over internet, it is normal as it was in your days to meet someone in pub. Internet is like a big pub or a street, where people say hello to each other more openly.

My friend(same age as me) in Kazakhstan met her future British husband over Facebook, for over one year they were visiting each other, sending messages, exchanging presents... next week is their wedding, I wish them all the best, because they are two nice people who were brave enough to meet each other over Internet.

Edited March 15, 2016 by Aika

[Martyn]

So you're hoping to meet your soul mate on the internet by telling people you're pretty and a good cook and then behaving like a 14 year old girl in a sweet shop?

Get a grip.

Ferg wasn't insulting you by the way, he was pointing out that the only man who is likely to show interest in this, is someone with problems looking for a tart. If that is what you are looking for, you are going about it the right way.

[Aika]

So you're hoping to meet your soul mate on the internet by telling people you're pretty and a good cook and then behaving like a 14 year old girl in a sweet shop?

Get a grip.

Ferg wasn't insulting you by the way, he was pointing out that the only man who is likely to show interest in this, is someone with problems looking for a tart. If that is what you are looking for, you are going about it the right way.

This topic is turning in "lets lecture her on how to date men" ) I dont really noticed what ferg said, neither found anything insulting,I only noticed that you are too snoby to me? not sure if right word. if you don't take me serious I wont whip and cry, I take you easy ;-) yet you are trying to convince me how wrong I am advertising myself here... I just want to be happy, like all singles in my age.

if you didn't notice irony in my words about cooking and being pretty sorry not my fault, it was an irony about men, most of you look for good cook and attractive outlook, non of you think what is she like when you see boobs ))))) Anyway, right man comes in right time, I believe in it.. probably it is not my time... at least not on this forum, and my mr the only one will be found somewhere else, and he won't be a leatherworker.

[Martyn]

Well it sounds like you've had your share of hardship and I genuinely wish you good luck in your search. If you want the advice of someone who's been happily married for 25 years, forget about making little baby leatherworkers, go socialise and meet some real people - and don't forget your sense of humour - it'll serve you well long after your behind has succumbed to the inevitability of gravity and cream cakes.

Edited March 15, 2016 by Martyn

[Aika]

Well it sounds like you've had your share of hardship and I genuinely wish you good luck in your search. If you want the advice of someone who's been happily married for 25 years, forget about making little baby leatherworkers, go socialise and meet some real people - and don't forget your sense of humour - it'll serve you well long after your behind has succumbed to the inevitability of gravity and cream cakes.

Reading this I only can think I could be married now for 19 years already if only my 1st husband would still be around... and I would probably take my happy marriage for granted and give away to single people simple advices about "go socialise and meet some real people" and think how smart I am.... oh people...

[Martyn]

Aika, regardless of your unfortunate circumstances - and you have my sympathies - this thread is still ill-advised and ridiculous.

I mean most of the people you are talking to, are on the other side of the planet. How were you hoping to consummate the relationship, Skype? Your short list should start with people in the same country at the very least, then maybe 'popping round for a coffee' falls within the realms of actually being possible.

...and regardless of what YOU want, there is the other issue of whether everyone else on here, wants to be subjected to your manhunting.

lecture over. Do what you want and good luck to you.

[Aika]

Aika, regardless of your unfortunate circumstances - and you have my sympathies - this thread is still ill-advised and ridiculous.

I mean most of the people you are talking to, are on the other side of the planet. How were you hoping to consummate the relationship, Skype? Your short list should start with people in the same country at the very least, then maybe 'popping round for a coffee' falls within the realms of actually being possible.

...and regardless of what YOU want, there is the other issue of whether everyone else on here, wants to be subjected to your manhunting.

lecture over. Do what you want and good luck to you.

For God sake!!!! Wise man please leave technical things to me and to that man who choose to send me a message, big things always start from small "hello" ))) skype, facebook, telegraph or ancient system of signs through smoke fire... we will find the way, if he likes me he will find ways to say that, if he wants to be closer - airports are open. I already lived in several countries and distance does not freaks me out.

Thank you for your blessings. I don't really care if this thread looks absurd and ridiculous to you, you are married and you are off my list. There is a place only for one man, and only one man should see this okay.

[Aika]

I once went to Singles speed dating event... I was so impressed so next day I tooled this.

[MonicaJacobson]

lol, awesome. My husband and I met in person, and then corresponded long distance (not too long, only about 800 miles) for two years before we got married. We've been married ten years now. Long distance dating can certainly work if your'e serious about it. In some ways you can say more over e-mail or phone than is comfortable in person. It's also easier to lie, so it can go both ways.

Edited March 15, 2016 by MonicaJacobson

[cjmt]

For God sake!!!! Wise man please leave technical things to me and to that man who choose to send me a message, big things always start from small "hello" ))) skype, facebook, telegraph or ancient system of signs through smoke fire... we will find the way, if he likes me he will find ways to say that, if he wants to be closer - airports are open. I already lived in several countries and distance does not freaks me out.

Thank you for your blessings. I don't really care if this thread looks absurd and ridiculous to you, you are married and you are off my list. There is a place only for one man, and only one man should see this okay.

Well said

[Troy I]

I'm not sure what everyone's problem is about this post...I have enjoyed this topic and find it perfectly fine for this forum...just think of how many of us have found, friends and other people here, with the same likes and dislikes.

If you are looking for someone with the same likes...what better place to find and communicate with them, than an area where we gather...be it this forum, a church, pub or place of work etc.

In my opinion, Aika, go for it...just keep it PG13....LOL

Edited March 15, 2016 by Troy I

[ConradPark]

I agree with Troy I. What I find most amusing is how those that claims to have least interest, shows the most need to voice their criticism - sometimes repeatedly. The obvious sexism (gender discrimination and prejudice - in case anyone mistook the meaning for something else) is sad too, even though I'm certain that those people involved are oblivious to that fact. I made a comment a while back on another thread about something I didn't like (the first and only time) and most answers I got was basically to get over it or beat it. Now I'll repeat that here - for those that of some reason have a problem with Aika's good humored thread, just beat it.

While I'm not interested myself, I still wish Aika good luck and keep doing what you're doing - regardless what other peoples opinions are. Always look forward.

[Aika]

Thank you for those who looks positive about this thread I don't really expect much, but I won't regret about opening this thread. Please stop trying to convince me that I made a silly step.

Who knows maybe the special one is already reading it and thinking same way and soon going to text me his first "Hello Aika".

I will only regret if I would not leave this door open for that special man to step in into my life. I don't believe in doing nothing and just rely on fate, I prefer to do something for it, the rest is in God's hands.

I understand that I am not a 50 pound/dollar note, so everyone should like/love/adore me instantly, especially in such tough environment as leatherworkers group , but who cares? Do you? I don't. We only live one life and should enjoy every day we have.

During last two years, while I am in leatherwork, I met so many good people, so many talented, made so many good friends!!!! I heard so many stories about friendship and love, I know few couples around the Globe who do leatherwork together as the family... why should I exclude myself from this circle when my belonging is obvious to me and other members of this community/circle.

Edited March 16, 2016 by Aika

[nrk]

Just trying my luck as the single girl, are there any leatherwork related single man around?

I am 37, from England, speak English, Russian, Kazakh, Italian.

I can cook, do leatherwork, and I am pretty.

31y, single. think pretty too (lol)

[Half Goat]

haha just found this post, such a laugh reading the comments!  Not too far away up in Scotland, however I am not single Just wanted to comment to say good on you for trying and not taking any carp from the lads

[Boriqua]

On 3/16/2016 at 3:53 AM, Aika said:

Thank you for those who looks positive about this thread I don't really expect much, but I won't regret about opening this thread. Please stop trying to convince me that I made a silly step.

 

Just read through all of that ... needed a break from reality. I am absolutely confused why you received guff and I say more power to ya. I am VERY happy not to be on the dating scene, especially now with new rules I dont get but were I to be on the lookout for a potential mate, partner and friend I would look in places where people have similar interests. My wife is an outdoors girl. I wouldnt have found her indoors!!

Why would I look for a partner in a disco, I know they dont have those anymore, if I hate discos. Why wouldnt I go to the beach, park, church or art class in a setting doing something I enjoy, hoping to find someone with similar interests. My wife is an outdoors girl. I wouldnt have found her indoors!! Good for you... go get em!

Great thing about leatherworkers is judging by this board they run both sexes and from young studs to highly cantankerous old men. Gotta be appropriate apple in there.

Alex

[Old Noober]

On 3/12/2016 at 5:09 AM, Aika said:

Who was really interested just sent me a text message without even showing off here and received all necessary info. I think this forum is full of my samples, just don't be lazy

 

OMG that video is amazing, and yes you are pretty.  Too bad I live in the States and married.  Good luck on finding your soulmate.

[RockyAussie]

Fantastic work Aika and I checked out your belt making also. There is going to be one hell of a lucky man out there for you I reckon. Maybe there's one in Australia. There is certainly a job waiting.