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  On 7/6/2022 at 2:34 PM, Sheilajeanne said:

My sincere condolences, Stewart!  I know how hard it is - lost my father, my husband, then my mother, all within a 10 month period. Talking does help, for sure, and if you need grief counselling, don't be afraid to reach out to an organization that provides it. That's what I had to do eventually, as some of the people I thought I could count on turned their backs on me. :(

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i order a yellow rose to palnt for her .That must have been a hard thing to indure.  for me ,I had no time at the time.

I had to support her family  and her also with that potection  . That in a way relevied alot of greif.

 

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  On 7/4/2022 at 10:56 AM, Handstitched said:

My Mother is 88, and while her mental faculties are OK at this point, its her physical condition .  She can walk short distances,  but  I'm close to getting her a wheel chair as walking is becoming difficult, often out of breath and  her joints can be painful. 

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In the early hours of Friday morning  , June 16th,  ( Aust) I lost my Mother, she was 89  . She fell ill Thursday morning, unable to speak, only managing the word ' headache'  . Rushed to our local hospital and then  she was airlifted to hospital in Perth. What was thought to be a a stroke , turned out to be a massive brain bleed , too dangerous to operate in a dangerous location, , an operation  that would have had no benefit, the damage was too great.. So she was made as comfortable as possible . She was  heavily sedated , not conscious ,  and not in any pain .  I went to the hospital  in Perth (Thursday, ( 3hrs drive)  I talked to her, held her hand.  Apparently they can hear your voice.   I  stayed as long as I could, but had to leave and look after my Dad . I got a phone call from the hospital in Perth around 4.15am Friday morning  (aust time)  to say my Mum was gone.  The worst phone call I've ever received.  .

Thats how quick it was. The shock is huge. She was fine Wednesday night, no symptoms.

We were both very close, plus we we did craft markets for the last 18 years.  She was my best friend, not just my Mum.

Peace

HS 

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' I have a very gweat friend in Wome called Biggus Dickus,

He has a wife you know, do you know whats she's called? Incontinentia.......Incontinentia Buttocks '  :rofl:

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  On 6/18/2023 at 8:09 AM, Handstitched said:

In the early hours of Friday morning  , June 16th,  ( Aust) I lost my Mother, she was 89  . She fell ill Thursday morning, unable to speak, only managing the word ' headache'  . Rushed to our local hospital and then  she was airlifted to hospital in Perth. What was thought to be a a stroke , turned out to be a massive brain bleed , too dangerous to operate in a dangerous location, , an operation  that would have had no benefit, the damage was too great.. So she was made as comfortable as possible . She was  heavily sedated , not conscious ,  and not in any pain .  I went to the hospital  in Perth (Thursday, ( 3hrs drive)  I talked to her, held her hand.  Apparently they can hear your voice.   I  stayed as long as I could, but had to leave and look after my Dad . I got a phone call from the hospital in Perth around 4.15am Friday morning  (aust time)  to say my Mum was gone.  The worst phone call I've ever received.  .

Thats how quick it was. The shock is huge. She was fine Wednesday night, no symptoms.

We were both very close, plus we we did craft markets for the last 18 years.  She was my best friend, not just my Mum.

Peace

HS 

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Oh man what a tragedy,  i am so sorry to hear that, and i have you in my thoughts and prayers.   I can only say I know what you have went through, i was with my mom when she went to heaven, yes she could hear you and feel your love. I know its the hardest thing you will ever live through but remember she will always be by your side. Love your dad man and stay strong for him.

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Bro I am soooooo sorry to read your pain

I was with my Mother when she passed so I understand your pain

Do not let others tell you to get over it and move on, Take your time, speak to others about her and in time you will feel better . It must be on your terms and your schedule

I am hear to lend an ear if needed

 

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@Frodo & @chuck123wapati Thank you  so much  to you both and  for sharing   :)   The people in my local community have been very caring and supportive as Mum was very popular and well respected  amongst the locals . 

It was just so unexpected , no warning, no symptoms  . 

Chuck, when I was talking to her and holding her hand , I could feel Mum trying to hold mine, I take great comfort in that, and yes, they can hear your voice . Hearing is one of the last senses to remain. 

Frodo,  it will take a quite  a while.  My nerves are still very raw.  No-one heals completely from loss .  And just writing about her and talking about  her does help a lot. 

I went into her sewing room recently, her life is in that room ,  I stayed in it for about a minute, ...and walked right out again  ,couldn't handle it. Too soon . That will take time . 

Thanks again,

HS

' I have a very gweat friend in Wome called Biggus Dickus,

He has a wife you know, do you know whats she's called? Incontinentia.......Incontinentia Buttocks '  :rofl:

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So sorry to hear this. It is never easy to lose those we love. 

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@Handstitched I am so sorry for your loss. My thoughts are with you during this troubling time.

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I have many friends that I have made at the craft markets over the years . One of which, her and her hubby are very crafty, she does some pretty fancy hand made quilts, and he does picture framing.  We've known each other for years.  They have been helping me through  these tough times.  The more I talk/write about stuff, the ( slightly) easier its becoming,  and  people on here sharing  on here helps too.   I still have my difficult moments, but I'm getting through it .  So thank you to all for your support  :thankyou: 

HS

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' I have a very gweat friend in Wome called Biggus Dickus,

He has a wife you know, do you know whats she's called? Incontinentia.......Incontinentia Buttocks '  :rofl:

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I am so sorry for your loss. Consider it a blessing for both of you, that you were with her until the last. The last thing she knew was that her son with her. Our prayers are with you.

I lost my mother in 2021. I could not be with her as she is not in the country and I could not travel due to health reasons. She was ailing - she never really recovered from losing my father in 2008. I spoke to her 10 minutes before she passed away suddenly. The only consolation for me is that her last words to me were 'I love you very, very much" and I replied ' I love you too". Every day that we  were apart for over 35 years, I called her twice daily so that when she awoke in the morning and then went to bed at night, she knew I loved her and that I was fine. 

I still sometimes reach for the phone to call her - habit of half-a-life time. 

One never really gets over losing parents but it does get a little easier. It might take  while but that day will come when you can remember her with love and affection without the deep associated pain.

Learning is a life-long journey.

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