Things are not Good

[Stewart]

 My wife,Lois, was admitted into Hospice yesterday. Almost a month stay in two Hospitals .

 First 2 weeks were of a Pacemaker the last week and half was for blood clots to leg and lungs

pluss limnode cancer that was real fast growing.

She is no pain and knows what is happing and accepted it. 

life is ever changing Happyness and pain. Guess the Pian is the winner.

[Handstitched]

I am very sorry to hear what you're both going through . It puts a lot of stress on your shoulders.  This reminds me of what I may go through with my Father in years to come. He's 91 with dementia, and has a pace maker.He had a blood clot in his lung as well. He's survived  cancer, and  most recently, COVID .  I am resisting putting him into care .  He's hard work, and can drive us nuts, he can get around...slowly,  but I just can't bring myself to putting him  into care.  We're just going by what the medical professionals tell us . 

My Mother is 88, and while her mental faculties are OK at this point, its her physical condition .  She can walk short distances,  but  I'm close to getting her a wheel chair as walking is becoming difficult, often out of breath and  her joints can be painful. 

I can only wish the very best for you both . 

Peace

HS

[kiwican]

So sorry to hear this, thoughts and prayers my friend 

[Sheilajeanne]

I went through this with my husband, who passed away from cancer. He had multiple other problems in the last year of his life, too - heart attack stroke, epileptic seizures. So hard to watch them go through this sort of thing.

So sorry! Hospice can be a blessing, as they are really good at keeping their patients comfortable. Roger was in a palliative care ward in the hospital for the last few weeks of his life, and they did an excellent job of looking after him, too.

Handstitched, we all have our limits of what we can cope with when looking after family members that are ill or suffering from the problems that come with old age. You need to know what those limits are, and have a plan in place for when you reach them.

In Roger's case, I was able to keep him at home until he could no longer walk safely, but I needed the help of a live-in caregiver, as he couldn't be left at home alone. I found that out one night when he refused to accompany me to a church service, insisting he'd be fine. I came home to find him lying in the snow at the side of the house! He'd wanted to go visit the neighbours, but instead of walking down the driveway, then along the sidewalk, which had been cleared of snow, he'd tried to walk across the lawn, fell, and couldn't get up. 

I knew once he couldn't walk safely that it was time. There was no way to keep him in bed 24/7 - he would be wanting to get up, so someone would have to be able to keep an eye on him around the clock. The hospital had an alarm on the bed, which would go off if he tried to get up, and they were also able to let him have a tub bath, which was one of the few things that helped with the pain of the bone mets - they had a special hoist that would lower him into the tub. It really was the best place for him at that point.

[suzelle]

Stewart,

Thanks for sharing your situation with us. Hospice is the best, I'm glad Lois is in their care. I just wanted you to know that seeing your handiwork here has been a blessing. May blessings be returned to you and Lois in abundance! Keep creating beautiful things when you can, I'm sure it's a comfort for you and good to keep your hands and your mind busy. Hang in there Friend!

[tsunkasapa]

I'm sorry to hear this. I will keep you both in my thoughts.

[chuck123wapati]

i am sorry to hear also and wish you all the best. All i can do is say a prayer for you and yours! God bless you friend.

[PastorBob]

On 7/4/2022 at 4:34 AM, Stewart said:

 My wife,Lois, was admitted into Hospice yesterday. Almost a month stay in two Hospitals .

 First 2 weeks were of a Pacemaker the last week and half was for blood clots to leg and lungs

pluss limnode cancer that was real fast growing.

She is no pain and knows what is happing and accepted it. 

life is ever changing Happyness and pain. Guess the Pian is the winner.

Praying for you and Lois.  Unfortunately we don't have an infinite time in these bodies.  But while we have them we can definitely be a blessing to those whom we have contact.  You will now be surrounded by an entirely new group of folks where you and Lois can bless them with your presence and kind words.  Life IS ever changing.  There will be bouts of happiness and pain, but JOY is something to hold onto.

Edited July 5, 2022 by PastorBob

[Stewart]

On 7/4/2022 at 6:56 AM, Handstitched said:

I am very sorry to hear what you're both going through . It puts a lot of stress on your shoulders.  This reminds me of what I may go through with my Father in years to come. He's 91 with dementia, and has a pace maker.He had a blood clot in his lung as well. He's survived  cancer, and  most recently, COVID .  I am resisting putting him into care .  He's hard work, and can drive us nuts, he can get around...slowly,  but I just can't bring myself to putting him  into care.  We're just going by what the medical professionals tell us . 

My Mother is 88, and while her mental faculties are OK at this point, its her physical condition .  She can walk short distances,  but  I'm close to getting her a wheel chair as walking is becoming difficult, often out of breath and  her joints can be painful. 

I can only wish the very best for you both . 

Peace

HS

Going thru that is very toll taking and assited living is very expensive. Thank you for your kind words.

She passed yesterday at a Hospice home.

 

On 7/4/2022 at 8:23 AM, kiwican said:

So sorry to hear this, thoughts and prayers my friend 

Thank you They were well needed.

[Stewart]

On 7/4/2022 at 9:50 AM, Sheilajeanne said:

I went through this with my husband, who passed away from cancer. He had multiple other problems in the last year of his life, too - heart attack stroke, epileptic seizures. So hard to watch them go through this sort of thing.

So sorry! Hospice can be a blessing, as they are really good at keeping their patients comfortable. Roger was in a palliative care ward in the hospital for the last few weeks of his life, and they did an excellent job of looking after him, too.

Handstitched, we all have our limits of what we can cope with when looking after family members that are ill or suffering from the problems that come with old age. You need to know what those limits are, and have a plan in place for when you reach them.

In Roger's case, I was able to keep him at home until he could no longer walk safely, but I needed the help of a live-in caregiver, as he couldn't be left at home alone. I found that out one night when he refused to accompany me to a church service, insisting he'd be fine. I came home to find him lying in the snow at the side of the house! He'd wanted to go visit the neighbours, but instead of walking down the driveway, then along the sidewalk, which had been cleared of snow, he'd tried to walk across the lawn, fell, and couldn't get up. 

I knew once he couldn't walk safely that it was time. There was no way to keep him in bed 24/7 - he would be wanting to get up, so someone would have to be able to keep an eye on him around the clock. The hospital had an alarm on the bed, which would go off if he tried to get up, and they were also able to let him have a tub bath, which was one of the few things that helped with the pain of the bone mets - they had a special hoist that would lower him into the tub. It really was the best place for him at that point.

The ddotors and nurses atthe hospitals she was in were supportive. The hospice home went out of their way for us.

Sadly she passed and now in no pain. Thank you for your kind words.