Oh, I DO agree, no one's beliefs should be forced on another, esp. at a funeral. My point was, I don't think it's right to have to have a prayer approved by a third party IF the family has invited the reverend/rabbi/whatever to be there. Now, if the family has not approved the speaker, why is the speaker there at all? Isn't that like crashing a wedding reception and doing a toast? Just seems weird to me. But again, maybe I'm not understanding how military funerals are arranged.